69 Position: The Ultimate Oral Sex Position
Why settle for giving or receiving when you can do both at the same time?
The 69 sex position is a true classic when it comes to mutual pleasure. It gives you the chance to treat each other to oral sex at exactly the same time.
We’ll guide you through the classic 69 position, share our best tips and sex toys, and show you how to switch things up with both Sideways 69 and Standing 69.
What Is the 69 Position?
69 is a sex position where two people give each other oral sex at the same time. You lie down or position yourselves facing opposite directions, so each person’s mouth is aligned with the other’s genitals. That way, you can both give and receive pleasure at once.
The name simply comes from the number 69, which reflects how the bodies are positioned opposite one another.
This position works for all genders and can be adapted to different body types, preferences and levels of flexibility. And while the classic 69 usually happens lying down, there are several variations worth exploring too.
Why Try It?
There’s more than one reason the 69 has become one of the best-known sex positions. It brings together closeness and mutual pleasure in a way that feels especially intimate. But it's also fun and incredibly satisfying for the both of you!
Why we (still) love the 69 position:
- You both get to give and receive oral sex at the same time.
- It’s all about pleasuring each other and tuning into your partner’s responses.
- You can vary the angles, pace and techniques.
- Hands and sex toys can easily become part of the experience.
- The position can be adapted to suit different genders and body types.
That said, it’s not always easy to focus on both giving and receiving pleasure at once. And that’s completely fine. You can always take turns being the more active partner and let the other simply enjoy the attention.
How To Do the Classic 69
The classic 69 position doesn’t require advanced technique or exceptional flexibility. The most important thing is finding a position where you can both relax and reach each other comfortably.
1. Start on a bed or another soft surface with plenty of space.
2. One partner lies on their back. A pillow under the head can make all the difference.
3. The other partner positions themselves on top. Turn in opposite directions so your heads are by each other’s lower body.
4. Find the right distance. The partner on top can support themselves on their knees and hands or forearms to adjust their position.
5. Start slowly, just as you would with any other oral sex. Give each other time to find a rhythm that feels good for both of you.
Ideally, the partner on top should be able to support their own weight so the person underneath doesn’t feel squashed. Feel free to adjust the position as you go if you need more space or a different angle.
Tips For the Partner on Top
When you’re on top in the 69 position, you have a good amount of control over the distance and angle between you. That can make it easier to find a position where you can both enjoy it.
Find the right angle. Support yourself on your hands or forearms so you can better control your position. Small adjustments can make a big difference to comfort. Change things up now and then so your arms don’t get tired.
Take turns giving and receiving. It can be hard to focus on two things at once. Try taking turns being the active partner so you both get the chance to enjoy the moment.
Use your hands too. Your hands can add caresses and extra touch, as long as you still have good support and balance.
Tips For the Partner Underneath
As the partner underneath, you can lean back and let the other person lead some of the movement. At the same time, you can guide the experience with your hands and your communication.
Use your hands. Stroke your partner’s hips or bum if that feels natural for both of you. You can also try inserting a finger into the vagina or anus at the same time, but make sure your partner is happy with that first.
Pay attention to their reactions. Your partner’s sounds, movements and words can help you understand what feels good. Ask directly if you’re unsure.
Help find a comfortable position. Small adjustments, such as placing a pillow under the head, can make a huge difference and help the neck relax.
Variations Of the 69 Sex Position
The classic 69 is only the beginning. With a few small changes, you can experience the position in new ways, whether you prefer to lie back and relax or challenge yourselves with something more acrobatic.
Sideways 69 - The Relaxed Variation
If the classic 69 position starts to feel tiring after a while, sideways 69 is an obvious alternative.
Here, you both lie on your sides with your faces turned towards each other’s genitals. You still get to give and receive oral sex at the same time, but neither of you needs to hold your body weight above the other.
That makes sideways 69 especially well suited to longer, more relaxed sessions where comfort comes first.
How to do it: Lie on your sides facing opposite directions and adjust the distance until you’re both comfortable. You can use pillows to support your head or body if needed.
Standing 69 - For The Adventurous
Ready to take the 69 position to the next level? There’s also a standing version, but it requires strength, balance and good communication.
In standing 69, one partner lifts the other so the lifted partner is upside down with their legs around the standing partner’s upper body. You’re still facing in opposite directions.
It’s a physically demanding variation that won’t suit everyone. It also comes with a real risk of falling, so don’t attempt it if you’re in any doubt about whether you have the strength for it.
Our recommendation: Choose the classic or sideways 69 if you want the same chance for mutual oral sex without the risk that comes with lifting a partner upside down.
Make the 69 Position Even Better with Sex Toys
Want to add a little extra variety to 69? Sex toys can be a fun way to combine different kinds of stimulation.
At Sinful, you’ll find several types of sex toys that are easy to bring into your play together.
Bullet Vibrator – Small and Versatile
A bullet vibrator is a great choice for the 69 position. Its compact size makes it easy to hold in one hand, and it can be used for extra external stimulation, for example around the clitoris.
It’s especially practical if you want to combine oral sex with vibrations without having to handle a larger toy.
Finger Vibrator – Extra Stimulation Right at Your Fingertips
A finger vibrator is designed to sit on or around your finger. That makes it easy to use for targeted stimulation and caresses.
Its compact design is especially practical in the 69 position, where space between you can be limited.
Couple’s Vibrator – For Versatile Stimulation
A good couple’s vibrator, such as our own Sinful Unlimited Pleasure Couple’s Vibrator, is wonderfully versatile and ideal for stimulating all genders. Use it to stimulate a man’s testicles or perineum while you enjoy 69, or turn it around and use the dildo shaft for internal stimulation.
Whatever takes your fancy, a good water-based lube is a must when you’re playing with sex toys. No lube, no pleasure - as we like to say here at Sinful 😉
Are You Ready to Try Position 69?
69 is a classic for a reason. It gives you the chance to explore mutual pleasure, experiment with different angles and discover new ways to be close.
Start with the classic 69, try the more relaxed sideways 69, or add a little extra stimulation with a bullet or finger vibrator.
The most important thing isn’t how advanced the position is, but that you both enjoy the experience and feel good throughout.
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Enjoy exploring each other.
