Are you curious about trying sex toys, but unsure where to start? Then you're definitely not alone.
There's a huge amount to choose from, and it can be difficult to know what to look for.
Fortunately, your first sex toy doesn't need to have lots of features. The most important thing is to choose something that suits the type of stimulation you're curious about and feels easy to use.
In this guide, you'll get our recommendations for the best sex toys for beginners - for women, men and couples. You'll also get our tips on how to use and clean your new sex toy, and how to choose lube for it, so you can get off to a good start.
Why You Should Try Sex Toys
The obvious advantage is that sex toys can give you new forms of stimulation. A vibrator gives you stimulation that fingers can't replicate, while a male masturbator can upgrade the masturbation you're already familiar with.
At the same time, sex toys can help you get to know your body better. Different types of stimulation, speeds and movements give you the opportunity to discover what feels good for you, and that can make it easier to put into words what you like with a partner.
First and foremost, it's about being curious and open to exploring your body and your desires.
If you are a couple, sex toys can be a good opportunity to talk about desire. What might be fun to try? What don't you feel like doing? And what might you want to try more of? That part can be every bit as interesting as exploring the product itself.
And if you decide to give it a go, you're certainly not alone! According to Sinful's Sindex survey, as many as 48 % of Britons have tried using sex toys. Sindex is based on an international survey carried out by Cint on behalf of Sinful with 2,000 respondents from each of six countries, including the UK.
Which Sex Toys Are Best for Beginners?
There isn't one product that's automatically the best choice when it comes to sex toys for beginners. The classic āit dependsā applies here too. Do you want external or internal stimulation, will it be used anally, or will you be using it with a partner? There are different sex toys suited to each purpose.
As a rule of thumb, good beginner sex toys are generally easy to use and not too large.
Here are our recommendations for the best starter sex toys for women, men and couples.
And whatever you choose, always remember to combine it with a water-based lube, which makes the experience even better.
Recommendations for Women
Among our female customers, vibrators are the most popular sex toys to start with. We particularly recommend starting with either a small bullet vibrator, an air pressure stimulator or a rabbit vibrator, depending on what sounds most exciting to you.
Read more about the products below.
Bullet Vibrator - Small and discreet
If clitoral stimulation is what you're most curious about, a bullet vibrator is a really good place to start. It can of course be used around the clitoris, but you can also let the vibrations travel to other sensitive areas such as the nipples, neck or inner thighs.
It's a good first sex toy because you don't need to insert anything. You can simply start externally, where you already know it feels good, and experiment from there.
We recommend starting with Baseks Love Bullet Vibrator 3.6 Inch, which has 10 vibration levels and is really easy to use.
Suction Vibrator - Indirect clitoral stimulation
A suction vibrator is a good choice if you're curious about clitoral stimulation but without the direct vibrations. It stimulates the area around the clitoris with pulsating air pressure, which can provide an intense but different sensation from a classic vibrator.
One of the most popular products is the Satisfyer Pro 2 Generation 2 Original Air-Pulse Clitoral Stimulator ā and for good reason. It provides fantastic clitoral stimulation and gives you excellent value for money.
Remember, a water-based lube can work wonders for your pleasure, even with the indirect stimulation from air pressure.
Rabbit Vibrator - Double the pleasure
Perhaps you've heard of the rabbit vibrator before? It combines internal stimulation with an external arm that typically stimulates the clitoris at the same time. This makes it ideal if you'd like to explore several forms of stimulation at once (and who doesn't want that? š).
As a beginner, it can be helpful to choose a model with several intensity levels and settings, so you can start gently and find out what feels good. Then you can gradually turn up the intensity.
We recommend taking a look at Sinful Curve Rabbit Vibrator, which, thanks to its curved shape, reaches the G-spot perfectly while the broad surface of the rabbit part hits the clitoris perfectly.
Recommendations for Men
Our male customers are particularly interested in upgrading their hand play with a masturbator, a cock ring to strengthen their erection, or a prostate stimulator for exploring anal pleasure.
Read more about the different types below.
Masturbator - An upgrade of your hand
A masturbator is a good choice if you'd like to vary your masturbation. It surrounds the penis and often has internal textures that provide a different type of stimulation from your hand alone.
It's easy to use because you control the pace, pressure and movement yourself. Always use water-based lube for a more comfortable and smoother experience.
We recommend trying MR.MEMBR Melody Vacuum Masturbator, which has a vacuum function that lets you control how tight it feels.
Cock Ring - Supports your erection
A cock ring fits snugly around the penis and can help keep blood in the penis, so the erection can feel firmer and last longer. It can be used during both masturbation and sex.
For beginners, a flexible model is a good place to start because it's easier to put on and take off.
We recommend taking a look at MR.MEMBR Penisring Set 3 pcs, which contains three rings in different sizes, so you can choose whether you want to use one or several rings at the same time.
Prostate Stimulator - Explore anal pleasure
A prostate massager is for anyone who's curious about anal and prostate stimulation. Its curved shape is designed to stimulate the prostate, while for some products vibrations can add extra intensity.
Start slowly, and always use plenty of lube for anal play.
We recommend Sinful Beginnerās Prostate Stimulator Kit, which comes in three different sizes, so you can explore at your own pace.
Recommendations for Couples
Our best recommendations for couples include a card game with sex positions and two different couples' vibrators, which give you easy inspiration for varying your positions while also allowing you to discover each otherās erogenous zones.
Read more about the product recommendations below.
Sex Position Game - Get inspired to try new positions
A sex position game is a fun choice if you'd like to try something new together but need inspiration on where to begin. The game helps you discover new positions and can make it easier to break away from your usual bedroom routines.
It's easy to get started, and you can try one position at a time and find out what feels good for you both.
We recommend trying Sinful Sex Positions Game, with illustrations and descriptions of different sex positions.
Vibrating Cock Ring - Vibrations for both of you
A vibrating cock ring combines the pressure of a cock ring with vibrations that can also stimulate your partner during sex. This makes it ideal for couples who'd like to try sex toys together without changing too much about the sex they're already familiar with.
We recommend the popular Sinful Love Buzz Remote Vibrating Cock Ring, which is easy to adjust or switch off during use thanks to the included remote control.
Couples' Vibrator - Explore different types of stimulation
A couples' vibrator allows you to explore different types of stimulation together. Depending on the model, it can be used for the clitoris, penis or internal stimulation, among other things.
This makes it a flexible choice if you'd like to experiment and find out what works well for you both.
We recommend trying Sinful Unlimited Pleasure Couple's Vibrator, which gives you countless ways to explore each other in new ways.
How Do You Use Sex Toys?
It obviously depends on the product, but there's one rule that works for almost all beginner sex toys: start slowly and gently. And use plenty of water-based lube!
It's also a good idea to read the instructions first. Yes, we know the manual is rarely the sexiest thing in the box, but among other things, it tells you how to switch the product on, charge it, clean it and use it correctly.
When you get started, it's best to begin with the lowest vibration intensity. If the product is intended for insertion, apply a generous amount of lube and take it slowly. Your body needs time to get used to the new and different sensation. That's also why it can be a good idea to warm up with your fingers first.
If you're using some type of vibrator, you don't need to place it directly on the most sensitive area from the very first second. Try using it around the area first and see how it feels. For some people, indirect vibrations feel better than targeted stimulation. Others want it intense from the very first touch. So experiment and find out what you like best.
And forget the idea that using sex toys always has to lead to orgasm. It can simply be a way to explore your body and get to know its signals.
What Type of Lube Can You Use with Sex Toys?
If you're unsure, a water-based lube is generally the safe choice.
Water-based lube can be used with all types of sex toys and is also compatible with condoms. The most popular one among our customers is the Sinful Aqua Water-based Lube 200 ml.
If you have a silicone- or oil-based lube at home, be aware that it can't be used with silicone sex toys, as it can damage the surface of the product. Instead, you can use these types of lube during sex, finger play and with sex toys made from materials such as glass or metal.
For anal play, a thicker lube can be more comfortable because the area doesn't produce its own natural lubrication. In this case, Sinful Anal Water-based Lube 200 ml is an ideal choice.
How Do You Clean Sex Toys?
The most important thing is always to follow the cleaning instructions for the specific product, as different materials and electronics may require different care.
Many products can be cleaned with warm water and mild soap or a specialised sex toy cleaner, such as Sinful Clean Sex Toy Cleaner 100 ml.
If the product isn't waterproof, avoid submerging it completely in water. Instead, clean the parts that come into contact with the body without getting water around charging ports or electronic components.
Allow the toy to dry completely before putting it away. Ideally, store it somewhere clean and dry, preferably in a separate storage pouch, so it's ready for next time. You can also store it discreetly in one of our storage bags.
Frequently Asked Questions About Beginner Sex Toys
Should Sex Toys Hurt the First Time?
No. New forms of stimulation can feel unfamiliar, but pain is a sign that you should stop. Use more lube, slow down or try a different size or shape if you find that it hurts to use the toy.
Can I Use Sex Toys with a Partner?
Of course. Almost any sex toy can be incorporated into partner play, even if the product was originally designed for solo use. A bullet vibrator can, for example, be used during foreplay, and a masturbator can easily be controlled by a partner.
Is It Normal to Use Sex Toys?
Yes. Sex toys are a completely normal way to explore sex and masturbation. And according to the Sindex study conducted by Sinful, 48 % of Britons have tried using sex toys. Find more Sindex findings here.
What If My First Sex Toy Doesn't Work for Me?
Then you've learnt something. Perhaps you find out that you prefer more or less intensity, a different shape or a completely different type of stimulation. There isn't one product that every body responds to in the same way, so the best advice is to experiment and find out what works for you.
Ready to Choose Your First Sex Toy?
Our best advice for you as a beginner is to choose something that makes you curious, and you can always broaden your horizons afterwards.
At Sinful, you'll find plenty of sex toys for beginners, so we're confident that you'll be able to find something that suits your tastes.
Explore our wide selection for women, men and couples and see where your curiosity takes you.
Enjoy!
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